The No-Win Game of Comparison

Theodore Roosevelt said it best with, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” We rob ourselves of this joy every single day when we play the no-win game of comparison.

Social media sets the perfect stage for the perfect storm of comparison. We scroll, scrutinize, suppose, and size up! But what does this really do for our well-being other than make us feel less pretty, less fit, less put together, less _____ (fill in the blank).

Not only does comparison take away opportunities to cultivate joy. It opens up a rabbit hole of opportunities to overthink and tear down the the things in our lives that we should be celebrating.

Our first line of defense is to set healthy boundaries around social media. Remember that you hold all the power when it comes to your online habits. Unfollow or unfriend the individuals who you find yourself endlessly trying to measure up to.

I always remind my clients that social media creates the perfect backdrop for perfection, which as we all know is utterly unachievable. Before you allow yourself to play the comparison game try tuning in to the emotions you are experiencing as you scroll. If you feel triggered by someone else’s content, put your phone down and spend a few moments reflecting on the negative feelings or emotions this post brought on.

When we take inventory of what is no longer serving us, set personal boundaries with social media that protect our peace, and allow ourselves to acknowledge our own path and the little wins we are achieving every day, we give ourselves the best chance of stepping into the best version of ourselves.

The Origin Story

A little over 10 years ago, I found myself at an incredibly difficult crossroads. Facing a failed relationship with my immediate familial support system more than 350 miles away, I knew the path back would be challenging. In the aftermath of my break up, I discovered a circle of friends who carried me past the heartache and feelings of sadness.

Break ups can be opportunities for intense and purposeful instrospection. The time I spent reflecting and growing allowed me to recognize what I wanted most out of my life- to serve and help others. I reenrolled in graduate school at The University of St. Thomas and let my heart lead me the rest of the way through my counseling coursework.

In the midst of rebuilding my personal life, I decided to get a tattoo of the silhouette of birds in flight. It served as a daily reminder every day as I got dressed that I was not alone. I had the comfort, love, grace, and support of my flock. Rooted in the adage, “birds of a feather, flock together”, I found strength and solidarity in the people who lifted me up when I needed them the most.

How poignant and fitting that I chose Birds of a Feather Wellness & Counseling as the name of my private counseling practice. It is my privilege and honor to help and serve my clients as they find their way back to themselves through therapy, personal development, community, and wellness.

At the heart of the work I do, I hope to encourage, inspire, and nurture you to spread your wings and soar to your fullest potential in life. Thank you for being a part of this wellness community, birdies! I look forward to sharing wellness content with you on this site.

A Bird’s Eye View

Meal planning can certainly prove to be a duanting task, especially if this isn’t your forte and you feel at a loss about where to begin. To simplify the process and also give you some new, easy, and healthy recipes to try, I’m offering you a bird’s eye view of how I meal plan using my weekly meal planner template.

As I established earlier this week, it starts by generating ideas. You can find these in a wealth of places including some of your favorite magazine subscriptions, social media feeds, and the internet. I have to say that in a pinch, Google is the absolute best way to troubleshoot your way into a creative recipe by simply typing several key ingredients you have on hand and letting their search engine capabilities do the rest.

If you’re looking for more ideas and guidance about meal planning, please visit the Birds of a Feather Wellness Facebook or Instagram account.

Without further ado, let’s launch into this week’s meal planner starting with the dinner breakdown for each day of the week. Each day will also include a link to the recipe online (if needed) so that you have everything you need to pull together a great dinner.

Weekly Meal Plan Sample Week

Because today is Thursday, I would schedule my curbside grocery pick up at HEB for later this afternoon and move through the week from Thursday through Wednesday. This is important because I try to be mindful of keeping my produce fresh.


Pasta with sauteed chicken, mushrooms, artichokes, and sundried tomatoes

This recipe is a simple and easy way to use fresh and staple items for an easy and delicious weeknight meal. I typically opt for whole wheat pasta but feel free to use the type of pasta that best meets your dietary needs.

Ingredients- 8 oz pasta, 1/2 onion (diced or sliced), 2 cloves garlic (chopped), 1/2 a pint of portabella mushrooms, 1 LB chicken tenders (cubed), 1 jar of sun dried tomatoes, 1 can of artichoke hearts quartered.

In a large pot, boil the pasta per the directions on the package.

In a skillet on medium high heat, add 1 TBS of olive oil from the jarred sun dried tomatoes and sauté half the for 2 to 3 minutes until the onion is translucent. Then add the garlic and sauté for an additional minute. Toss in the chicken (cubed) and sauté until the chicken is cooked through and no longer pink in the center. Next add the mushrooms, sun dried tomatoes in oil, and canned artichokes. Cook until the mushrooms, tomatoes and artichokes are warmed through.

Add the cooked, drained pasta to the skillet and mix throughly to evenly distribute the oil. Top with fresh lemon juice and shredded parmesan. Serve with a country-style loaf of bread and a chopped salad.


Crunchy eggs with bacon, hashbrowns, and biscuits or pancakes

Who doesn’t love breakfast for dinner? There’s a lot of flexibility with this meal, and it’s especially a fan favorite for children. To make this meal more balanced, serve with fresh cherry tomatoes and fresh fruit.

The crunchy eggs really take the traditional fried egg up a notch. Here’s a link to the Real Simple recipe:

A few of my favorite hacks for making this dinner especially great include the following:

  • Allow the frozen hashbrowns to thaw completely in the fridge overnight so that they can really brown in the skillet.
  • Bake the bacon in the oven at 425. Cook on one side for 4 to 5 minutes. Then flip and cook for an additional 4 minutes. This allows the bacon to be extra crispy! I then use the bacon grease in my eggs for an extra layer of flavor. You can omit this step if you are being health-conscious. I genuinely believe these simple pleasures should be enjoyed in moderation provided that you are exercising regularly and eating mindfully most of the time.
  • If you’re pressed for time pre-made frozen biscuits and frozen pancakes are a great time saver.


Steak and grilled peppers and corn on the cob with homemade chimichurri

Fire up the grill for this flavorful summer dinner.

Ingredients: 1 pkg mixed sweet mini peppers, 2 12 oz strip steaks, 3 to 4 ears of corn on the cob (husks removed).

Here’s a link to my favorite chimichurri sauce:

Bacon-Wrapped BBQ Shrimp with Chimichurri Dipping Sauce

Heat the grill to medium.

In a bowl coat the sweet mini peppers with olive olive oil, salt, & pepper. Use a basting brush to coat the corn in olive oil and sprinkle with salt and pepper. Season the steak with salt and pepper. Transfer all items to a large platter.

Place on the grill and cover. Turn the peppers and corn periodically so that they get a nice char going on all sides. The steak will cook anywhere from 5 to 8 minutes per side depending on your desired preference. When finished, remove from the grill and slice the steaks into strips, then top with the homemade chimichurri sauce. Serve alongside an ear of corn and peppers.


Chicken fried rice

I’m always a fan of ways to shortcut my time in the kitchen. This is where frozen staple and pantry items absolutely save the day. For this recipe I use Tai Pei vegetable fried rice as a starter. Then I use fresh produce and chicken to round the meal out.

Ingredients: frozen fried rice, 1 LB chicken tenders (cubed), 1/2 sweet onion (thinly sliced or diced), 1/2 a pint of mushrooms (sliced), frozen edamame, & PF Changs vegetable egg rolls

Frozen staples

In a large skillet on medium high, heat 1 TBS of olive oil. Add the onions and cook until translucent. Add the cubed chicken and mushrooms, and sauté until cooked through. Remove from the skillet and set aside. Add the package of frozen rice along with 2 teaspoons of oil and water. Cover and cook for 8 to 10 minutes until the rice starts to brown. Stir occassionally. Add the chicken, mushrooms, and onions and stir to evenly distribute the ingredients. Serve with edamame and egg rolls.

Chicken Fried Rice


Tacos with rice and beans

This simple recipe can easily be a weekly staple and can be swapped out for ground beef, ground turkey, or ground chicken.

Taco ingredients- 1.5 LBS ground meat, 1 pkg taco seasoning, 1/2 sweet or white onion (diced), flour or corn tortillas (soft or hard), shredded lettuce, shredded cheese, diced tomato, diced avocado, and jarred salsa

Rice ingredients- Mi Tienda Mexican rice or your grocery store’s pre-made equivalent, 1 can of black or pinto beans (drained and rinsed), 1/2 cup frozen corn, 1/4 sweet onion (diced), chicken broth

In a large skillet on medium high, sauté onion in 1 TBS olive until translucent. Add the beef and brown. Add the taco seasoning and follow the directions on the package.

On a comal or flat skillet, warm the tortillas if preparing soft tacos. Warm the crunchy tacos in the oven per the directions on the box if your prefernce is cruchy tacos.

In a medium-size pot, sauté the 1/4 onion in olive oil, add the frozen corn and canned beans. Microwave the rice per the package directions and then add the rice to the pot. Add a small amount of chicken broth to keep the rice and beans from drying out. You may have to adjust the amount of broth as you stir the ingredients together. Reduce the temperature to low, and allow to warm through.

Serve the tacos with shredded lettuce, diced tomatoes, grated cheese, diced avocado, and salsa and plate with rice and beans.


Pulled pork sliders with chopped salads

This is the easiest weeknight meal of all time. It can easily come together in less than 15 minutes. I reserve this one for weeknights I know that I will be especially presssed for time.

Ingredients- HEB natural fully-cooked pulled pork or your favorite grocery store’s equivalent , 1 pkg whole wheat sliders, your favorite barbeque sauce, sliced dill pickles, and a storebought chopped salad kit.

Heat the pulled pork per the directions on the package. Serve on sliders with bbq sauce and pickles. Add a heaping portion of salad to your plate and enjoy.


Rice bowl

This is the perfect way to repurpose leftovers. Build this bowl around key ingredient you have on hand or from leftovers from earlier in the week. The important thing to consider when dreaming up your bowl is to integrate at least one protein, some fresh or frozen produce, and a great jarred or homemade sauce. Consider using your favorite salsa, chimichurri, or oil based sauce.

Ingredients- leftover rice and ground beef from Monday’s tacos, shredded lettuce, diced tomato, grated cheese, fresh cilantro (choppped), fresh squeezed lime juice, and salsa

Depending on how much you have leftover you can stretch this recipe with a bag of microwaveable brown rice and canned black or pinto beans.

Warm the rice, beans, and ground beef in a skillet or microwave. Remove the stove and add to a bowl. Top with fresh diced tomatoes, shredded lettuce, grated cheese, cilantro, lime juice, and salsa. These can be enjoyed alone or with a side of tortilla chips for an extra crunch.

Weekly Shopping List

Produce– portabello mushrooms, cherry tomatoes, Roma tomatoes (3 to 4), romaine lettuce (I usually buy the pre-washed, trimmed option), fresh lemons & limes (3 to 4 each), corn on the cob (3 to 4 ears), 1 bunch of cilantro, 1 bunch of parsley, garlic bulb (1 to 2), onion (2 to 3), 1 pkg sweet mini peppers, chopped salad kit (2)

Meat– Chicken tenders, 2 LBS (I usually opt for these over chicken breasts because they cook faster, which saves time in the kitchen. I will use half the package for Thursday’s recipe and then freeze the other half until Sunday’s recipe), skirt steaks (2- 12 oz), 1.5 LBS ground meat of your choice, 1 pkg HEB natural fully-cooked pulled pork

Pantry– tortillas (corn, flour, or boxed crunchy depending on your taco preference), 1 pkg whole wheat slider buns, canned black or pinto beans (at least 2 cans), 1 can of artichoke hearts, microwaveable brown rice, jarred sundried tomatoes, your favorite bbq sauce, sliced pickles

Refrigerated– Mi Tienda Mexican rice or your favorite microweable Mexican or Spanish rice

Frozen– Tai Pei vegetable fried rice, edamame, hashbrowns

Dairy– Eggs

The image of my shopping list includes additional items specific to my breakfast, lunch, and snack ideas. I only included the list of ingredients you will need to make the weekly dinners.

I hope you found this bird’s eye view of my weekly meal plan to be both inspiring and helpful. With careful planning each week, you can create healthy, delicious meals that allow you to stay on budget and stay on track with your health and wellness goals.

Feel free to email me at for this meal plan template or for specific questions regarding meal planning.

Spread your wings & soar in the kitchen,






Grace, Grit, & Gammie

My heart is filled with grief and sadness for the loss of my grandmother, Elida “Ellie” Rios. Fondly referred to in our family circle as “Gammie”. This incredibly resilient, poised, and tenacious woman passed away peacefully in her sleep early yesterday morning to find eternal rest.


She grew up in a quiet, small town in rural Texas with her parents, Felix and Ana Leal Zuniga. The middle child of six, her older and younger siblings: Celia, Eladio “Lalo”, Anna, Evelyn, and Ercilia “Ersie”, naturally found themselves enveloped in her caring and generous spirit. Her first language was Spanish, and she later learned to speak English when she started  elementary school. She spent her formative years in Hebbronville developing a love of fashion and style all her own as she enveloped her family and friends in her kindness and love.


Upon graduation from Hebbronville High School, Ellie crossed paths with a handsome duster-pilot at the San Benito Airport. Her courtship with Guadalupe “Lupe” Gomez quickly blossomed, and Ellie found herself falling deeply for her first love. The two married and made a life together in Los Fresnos, Texas with their two children, Dahlia “Dolly” and Gil.

Ellie’s natural grace and glamour evolved into entrepreneurial success when she opened Ellie’s Beauty Studio. Her passion as a hairdresser embraced a desire to help other women find strength in their beauty. These weekly visits to Ellie’s offered far more than just a trim or a style, she also offered insight, wisdom, and community to all the women she served.


For those of you who did not have the privilege of crossing paths with this woman. I feel a key part of her story lies in her poise and grace. This is a woman who genuinely and wholeheartedly embraced her femininity. She had immaculately styled hair, teased just enough and always the perfect shade of blonde. She wore a full face of makeup that was never overdone but always finished off with the perfect tint of red lipstick. Her delicately manicured nails always wrapped around a fashionable handbag that she usually slung over her shoulder so she could saunter just so, lighting up the path along her way as though it were a high fashion runway. Her sense of fashion always mirrored the times, and one of her favorite pastimes until the very end came from the joy derived from retail therapy with her daughter, daughter-in-law, and granddaughters.


In July of 1966, Lupe tragically died in a plane crash leaving Ellie widowed with two young children. Her strength and tenacity allowed her to overcome numerous challenges as a single mother during a time when female entrepreneurs were not treated with the same level of prestige and success as their male counterparts.

Life after Lupe proved to be a challenge, but she never lost sight of her dream to build her business while also providing for her children. As any strong woman would tell you, it never comes easily. It requires steadfast dedication, application, and grit. She made sacrifices like renting her family home out to supplement her income while living in the back three rooms of her beauty shop with her children. Despite these challenges, Ellie proudly put her two children through college as she continued to scale her beauty business.

With time, Ellie found room in her heart again for love. And one day, as fate would have it, she drove her car to the neighboring town of Brownsville for auto repairs. As she waited for her car, she decided to pass some time at a nearby ice cream parlor for a treat. It was here that she met her second and final love, Rafael “Ralph” Rios, a high school coach and wood shop teacher in Brownsville.


The two of them built a life around her beauty shop and his teaching career. They grew old together in Los Fresnos watching their own children find love and expand their families. They both valued the importance of civic duty by serving their communities through service and leadership. Some of her most proud commitments included service to the Los Fresnos Junior Service League, Los Fresnos Band Boosters, Mr. Amigo Association, Sembradores Unidos, Alambras,  Eucharistic Minister at St. Cecilia Catholic Church, and a member of the Red Hat Society.


Ellie was lovingly and fondly referred to as “Gammie” among family and loved ones. This moniker evolved from my inability to say, “Granny” as a little girl. Quickly this became the name adopted as her grandmother name. Growing up, those in our friend circle also warmly and respectfully called her Gammie. In many ways she was a grandmother to many always embracing them in a warm hug and nourishing their spirits with baked goods and iced tea.

Ellie led a long, rich, and storied life. She loved deeply, persevered fiercely, and taught me that femininity can be both beautiful and bold. Her legacy and memory as a wife, mother, sister, grandmother, aunt, businesswoman, and friend will live on in the stories her loved ones share. She touched my life in so many poignant ways, and I was so incredibly blessed to to have a grandmother like my Gammie.

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Despite my sadness, I take comfort in knowing one day I will cross paths with her again in Heaven. Until then, Gammie, I’ll put on my bright red lipstick always channeling your grace and poise as I reflect on the day ahead in the mirror.

Hasta que nos volvamos a ver, Gammie, siempre te amaré y siempre te llevaré en mi corazón.

Student of the Week

This week, Liam enjoyed all of the attention and excitement surrounding the coveted title of Student of the Week in his first grade class. With more than three fourths of the school year complete, for an impatient first grader this honor took far longer than he would have liked. When his moment to shine finally came, it is safe to say he relished in every part of it.

Friday culminated the end of a wonderful week for him and allowed me the opportunity to surprise him with an open letter his teacher shared with him and his classmates during the morning meeting. I joined his class towards the end of his lunch period to share two of his favorite books with his class. When I arrived, they were all abuzz about how cool Liam’s letter was. I put a little extra care into the creation of the letter by incorporating it into a PowerPoint presentation filled with pictures and special anecdotes about Liam. It only seemed fitting to format this piece into my latest blog post.

Our Letter to Liam

Dear Liam,

Dad and I are so proud of how much you’ve grown over the last few years. You amaze us with your energy, love of reading, and curiosity.

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Dad and I know being the oldest comes with a lot of responsibility.  We are proud of you for accepting this role. You are such a hard worker at home helping us with chores and taking care of your new puppy, Stormtrooper. Thank you for doing such a great job. We appreciate your help so very much.


Liam you truly are an amazing big brother. Atticus is so blessed to have a brother who is kind, caring, helpful, and loving. You understand how important it is to share and help him learn to how to be his best. Thank you for your big heart!

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Your adventurous spirit is something we truly admire about you, Liam. We love how excited you are about the thrill of scaling a fence, racing across the neighborhood on your go kart, or achieving some type of athletic accomplishment. May you continue to enjoy all of life’s great adventures!


Growing up on the beach, I have loved watching you find so much joy on the sandy shores of South Padre Island too. The excitement of building sand castles, riding waves, and collecting sea shells are some of my favorite summer memories with you.


I know dad loves sharing his love of snowboarding with you. You have really picked up the sport and impress us both with how adventurous you are to carve down mountains in Colorado. We look forward to seeing you continue to improve and excel in the sport.


You astonish us with how much you love sweets. Donuts, candy, cupcakes, milkshakes… you name it, you are all too happy to gobble it up. May your love of sugary sweets continue to bring you endless amounts of happiness.


Liam, your life of leisure is something we admire about you. You are all about the pajama life and would stay in them all day, every day if we let you. As you grow, I hope you do not lose sight of the simple pleasures in life like wearing comfy pajamas from sun up to sun down.


Liam, we hope you continue to work hard, show kindness, and find joy in life. We love you so much and are proud of all of the positive things you do.

All our love,

Mom & Dad


Slowing Down

For educators and students, alike, Spring Break is a welcome reprieve from textbooks, lesson plans, and tedious schedules. It’s a week to sleep in, relax with a good book, travel, or find fun adventures to discover around your neighborhood.

While Sean and Liam jetted off for a snowboard adventure in Colorado, I opted for a more low key break sprinkled with equal parts of quality time with my mom and Atticus, lazy afternoons of endless reading, and low key evenings watching chick flicks. There were also intermittent dashes of spring cleaning and shopping excursions serving up the perfect recipe for an absolutely wonderful break.

Now granted, slowing down is not typically one of my strong suits, but the takeaway from a week devoid of over-scheduled, hectic workdays is simple: sometimes all a girl really needs is a little downtime to recharge and appreciate the beauty in the little things.

Quality Time

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Quality time can come in many different forms. Before Liam and Sean headed north to the mountains and snow, we enjoyed a lazy Sunday sipping coffee at Land of Thousand Hills, spending quality time with the boys engaged in creative play in an imaginative world of superheroes and castles, and enjoying the beautiful weather watching Liam attempt to roller skate around the neighborhood with his little brother hot on his heels on his tricycle. In the hustle and bustle of our busy work schedules, it was so nice to slow things down and just allow the day to unfold as it did.

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For this avid reader, nothing is more enjoyable than sharing my love of reading with my boys. Something as simple as pausing in the middle of a Target run on Monday morning to peruse the literature section for a great read is a perfect example of quality time.

Liam caught up on a new Captain Underpants novel while Atticus found himself lost in a Coco book. As they quietly enjoyed their reading time on the tiled floor, I perused the self-help section for some great new reads: Girl, Stop Apologizing by Rachel Hollis, 52 Lists for Happiness by Moorea Seal, and The Headspace Guide to Meditation and Mindfulness by Andy Puddicombe. These books quickly became page turners for me on the quiet afternoons Atticus spent napping over the break!

Fuss-free Food 

Most weekends, I carve out a portion of my time meal planning and grocery shopping for all of the weekly essentials. Spring Break offered a unique opportunity to stray from the usual and enjoy fuss-free meals with ingredients on hand or take-out leftovers spread out over multiple days. I still kept it healthy with dinners of sautéed kale with sliced almonds and dried cherries, but I also channeled my inner child with whole grain Mickey Mouse nuggets enjoyed with an adorable dinner companion sitting in his high chair cheering about macaroni and cheese and orange slices. Scrapping the more elaborate dinners for low key options offered me more quality time with Atticus and less time in the kitchen cooking or doing the dishes!

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Simple Self-Care

Every girl loves a little pampering. Simple forms of self-care provided the perfect opportunity to relax and unwind. Nothing says, “ahhhhhh!” quite like a calming paper face mask, an afternoon pedicure with a hot soak in lavender bath salts, or an hour long massage. These three separate escapes could not have been more perfect for this usually too busy to slow down, Mama Bear!


Sleeping In & Afternoon Siestas

Daylight savings could not have come at a more ideal time. The break allowed us to ease into springing forward by sleeping in and indulging in extra-long afternoons naps. Most mornings, my alarm rouses me from my sleep by 5:45. Sleeping in until 7:00 or 7:30 was such a blessing. Every afternoon, I tiptoed into Atticus’s room to sneak a peek at him sleeping soundly. So much sweetness cuddled up into a cozy ball!

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Reflecting on my break this evening, brings me great joy. I genuinely feel recharged and reinvigorated to push through the next few months until summer break offers me endless opportunities to slow down.

Looking down at my boys this evening as they playfully enjoyed bath time served yet again as a simple reminder that life is too short not to savor the little things. After all, my little things won’t be little forever. Soon enough they will be bigger and taller than me!




The Things we do as Mothers

Our everyday lives are series of boxes to check starting with turning off the blaring alarm in the wee hours of the morning all the way until we reset our alarm after a long days work. This then ensures that the blaring alarm will rouse us from our sleep again the following morning. Read more succinctly as, “wash, rinse, repeat!”


I willingly own that not everyone is as regimented and Type A as me. And while being so meticulous does have it’s perks, carrying it out seamlessly has proven to be a more challenging task since becoming a mother. So I thought it would be slightly humorous and a no doubt reaffirming post to construct about the things we find ourselves doing in life to get from Point A to Point B with the path of least resistance possible, i.e. a tantrum throwing toddler or a whiny first grader. And because like me so many of you also walk this daily walk as a Mama Bear,  I give you, The Things we do as Mothers to make life work in whatever way we can.


Let’s start with getting out the door every morning on time. In my world that’s leaving by 6:45 a.m. at the latest. Most mornings, thankfully, Liam remembers to set his alarm. On the rare occasion that he forgets and neither Sean or I double checked it the night before, this usually turns into a rather frenetic scene that plays out something like the opening scene of Home Alone when the McAllister’s realize their alarm did not go off on the day they are scheduled to fly to Paris on an early morning flight. I’m running up the stairs often with a toddler in tow as a door flails open, and Liam is rather abruptly roused from his dreamlike state. Very quickly, however, a half awake seven-year-old realizes he’s overslept and gratefully puts the wheels in motion to get himself ready for school.


Other mornings things go off kilter because life with a toddler is anything but predictable. Take for example, Atticus’s most recent ear infection. Trying to get him to drink a thick, chalky antibiotic is about as easy as walking a tight rope with fifty pound weights in either hand and a blindfold around your head.

“No, yucky, mommy! I no drink!”

Because he desperately needs this medication, and I desperately need to get out the door so that I’m not late for work, desperate times call for desperate measures. In this case, I simply resort to good old fashioned bribery. Now mind you, this is happening at 6:30 in the morning. The sun has not even kissed the horizon yet, and I’m digging deep for the bargaining power I need to leverage this deal. So I race to the top shelf of the pantry and return with a Dum Dum lollipop. It’s exactly what I need to close the deal and get my toddler to be compliant.

And later when I walk into daycare at 6:45 a.m. with a toddler sucking happily on his cherry flavored lollipop, I hope no one judges me too harshly for encouraging candy this early in the morning. But alas, it’s all about surviving fellow Mama Bears, and so inevitably we do what life dictates in that moment to survive. It might be candy before breakfast, or pajamas all day, or even screen time in the car just to get your toddler in the car in the first place. Life with a toddler is constant bargaining and using every tool in the toolbox. And on your worst days, it’s leveraging multiple tools to get out the door, but alas I digress.


Life as a mother closely mimics an image I think back to of a book I really liked when I was little, Caps for Sale, by Esphyr Slobodkina. Daily life as a mother is a bit of a chameleon act. We wear a lot of different hats, each with a very distinct purpose. There is the toddler bargaining hat, the Master Chef hat, the bedtime story teller hat, the jack-of-all-trades hat, etc. There are a lot of hats and sometimes we are wearing more than one of them at the same time trying to multi-task our way through it. The expression, “fake it, until you make it” could not be more poignant for us as mothers.

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I will leave you with a final image. One that surely many of you have lived out at some point in your daily life as a mom. After a long day at work, you pull into the garage with the kiddos knowing you need to still prepare dinner, oversee homework, and keep a toddler entertained all in the next twenty minutes so that the rest of your evening routine can fall into place. You are donning all of these unique hats and trying to nail a home run out of the park through every single venture. You channel the patience of Job and the culinary skills of Padma Lakshmi as you set out to accomplish this rather difficult task.

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Now granted you might burn a tortilla along the way or have to pacify a toddler with an episode of Mickey and the Roadster Racers, but for the most part, you do it. And you do it day in and day out because that’s what Mama Bears do. It isn’t always easy. Sometimes you wonder how in the world the ship doesn’t sink with you at the helm. But by the grace of God, the infinite amount of love in your heart, and the other Mama Bears who stand by you in solidarity, you do the things you do to make life in your own home with your cubs and spouses work.

Our little ones won’t always remember the sacrifices we made along the way to make sure they never went without, but they will remember how much they were loved and how special we made them feel along the way. Even on your most difficult day, remember that you’ve got this, Mama Bear. And you have a tribe of other Mama Bears cheering you on along the way. So go out into the world confidently, and do the things we do as mothers!



Life as a Boy Mom


Life as a boy mom is a messy, rugged, action-packed adventure. My daily life is a whirlwind of trains, cars, superheroes, dinosaurs, Legos, and a smattering of other boy toys. The learning curve for me was steep, but with practice and time came the ability to easily name off every Marvel superhero and almost every key Transformer robot. I can identify most construction vehicles with ease and have watched Cars so many times I can quote it by memory.

Growing up with a brother, I remember stealing his GI Joe soldiers to pair them with my Barbie dolls. But outside of that, I feel like most of our other play interactions were gender neutral. There was a lot of fence climbing, bike riding, and playground play but I do not remember being enmeshed in his world of Kinect’s or other boy toys. So life as a boy mom has been truly eye-opening for me.


Messy play happens in all homes with young children underfoot. Playrooms and bedrooms often look like a fierce tornado rolled through and upturned all of the well organized crates of toys and let the pieces fall where they may. Walking into the boy’s play zone at any given time is a cacophony of giggles, imaginative play, and a colorful mess of building blocks, coloring books, and a wide array of other odds and ends. And while sometimes I have to take a step back and count to ten so that I don’t overreact to the mess that lays before me, I also find myself smiling at these little moments where two brothers are cultivating a unique bond sharing in these creative, imaginary moments together.

Someday my life as a mother might include a daughter and play with her will be more familiar. I remember all-to-well the tea parties, dressing up my Barbie dolls, and braiding My Little Pony’s rainbow colored mane. But for now, I’m happy embracing my role as a boy mom. It is a crazy, beautiful, ever-changing adventure that rarely slows down. They keep me on my toes as we zip down slippery slides together giggling all the way down, zip lining across a playground holding on for dear life so we don’t fall in a pile of mulch, or screaming at the top of our longs under bridges and laughing at the echo that reverberates deeply long after we stop yelling.


Being a boy mom, brings me more joy than I could have ever imagined. They see the world from a unique vantage point that largely differs from my own as a female, but I appreciate with sincere fondness their incredible curiosity and fierce spirit that emanates from deep within their soul. Boys, may you continue to pursue life with the same zest and gusto you illuminate the world with today!

The Icing on the Cake

Idioms are widely used in conversations between family, friends, and colleagues with regularity. These groups of words have a meaning that strays significantly from those of the individual words. In my day-to-day conversations, I often take for granted how confusing these phrases might be to the English language learner or my own seven year old, for that matter.

“Umm, mom. I’m not sure how it can be raining cats and dogs. All I see is a bunch of water?”

Because I’m always looking for unique blog content. I thought it might be fun to include some of my favorite idioms that I can find parallel with in my daily life. So lend me your ear as I go out on a limb. My hope is you will understand the method to my madness when it’s all said and done.

Birds of a feather flock together 


It makes perfect sense that people with similar passions find solidarity pursuing the things they love most in life. Interestingly my tribe of running buddies truly are birds. We are the Bayou City Road Runners, to be specific. My love of long distance running has allowed me the opportunity to cultivate some incredible friendships. Shared mileage and post run coffee breaks have always provided the perfect blend for friendships that go the distance.

Best of both worlds


In life there is nothing better than sharing quality time with the one’s you love while also being able to check something important off of your to do list. Case in point, knocking out a long run as you chase your son through the neighborhood on his go cart. This definitely offers the best of both worlds.


Chasing rainbows


Chasing rainbows is all about following your dreams. Even at thirty-five, I continue to chase personal bests and first place finishes. It’s important to always set goals and put the wheels in motion. Continue to dream big and chase those rainbows with gusto. You will set an incredible example for those around you, and inspire others to dream big too.

Getting a second wind


When you work full-time and also balance a spouse, children, and a home life, almost daily, you are counting on that second wind to kick in. For children, this proverbial second wind often morphs into a third and fourth wind. Ah to be so young and carefree! Truthfully though, finding that second gear is an integral part of managing all of the facets of my life. Granted this second wind may take more coffee than it used to, but I still find myself digging deep for that second wind when I need it most to get through a particularly long day.

Hold your horses


Children have a way of forcing us to find moments to pause in life and see the world from their vantage point. Their beautiful world is full of joy and wonder. Their lives are simpler and unencumbered by schedules and mile long ‘to do’ lists. In their own perfect little way, they monopolize the market on holding their horses. We could take note, and try to follow suit by giving ourselves the opportunity to reflect on the little moments in our day. Find time to slow down long enough to appreciate a gorgeous sunset or a perfect full moon illuminating the night sky.

Be patient. You never know what might come your way if you allow yourself to wait it out.

Every cloud has a silver lining


This is one of my favorite idioms because it is a conscious choice we make to look at the situation in a positive way. Choose to be hopefully optimistic. Even the most difficult of times will lead to better days. Take for example, the muddy mess that happened when Atticus slipped in the mud last spring at the state track meet. I could have panicked, especially because I didn’t have a spare change of clothes on hand. But how could I rain on his little parade. He was having the time of his life running around, and he couldn’t care less about being covered in mud. Every cloud has a silver lining even if it’s a messy one!

Over the moon

When someone is over the moon, they are beyond pleased and incredibly happy. I am blessed to have two sweet boys who live out most days in this elated state of happiness. I treasure every smile, every belly laugh, and every moment of ecstatic wonder to the absolute fullest. This approach to life makes every day a little sweeter and a little more memorable.

Without a doubt, idioms clearly are a regular part of my storytelling and daily conversation. They offer a unique perspective of looking at life that is candid and refreshing. It’s the icing on the cake!


Through the Eyes of a Child


I often say life would be more pure if we looked at the world through the eyes of a child. Their innocence, heart, enthusiasm, and curiosity set the stage for a worldview that vastly differs from our vantage point as adults. Perhaps though, if we allowed ourselves to be more childlike, our perspective about life would follow suit.

In order to consider this new frame of reference, perhaps we need to recognize what the world of a child truly has to offer. What better way to gain invaluable knowledge and insight than through some of my personal favorite children’s books. Take a walk with me through the colorful and imaginative world of children’s fiction, and see where it might take you!

Beautiful OOPS! by Barney Saltzberg

Let’s start with a Beautiful Oops! A book that resoundingly encourages you to embrace the beautiful mistakes you make in life. What a truly lovely sentiment! If only we could all adopt such a positive approach to human errors. This book undoubtedly appeals to the preschool age child with its unique approach to smudges of paint, torn paper, unexpected spills, and other messy mistakes. However, the theme of this book not only encourages one to adopt a growth mindset but also to have fun growing and learning from the mistakes you make along the way.


Pete the Cat Go, Pete, Go! by James Dean

What better way to learn about taking life in stride and enjoying the experiences as they come your way then from the perspective of a overly optimistic cat named Pete. Rarely does he let stress or pressure steer him from his pursuits in life. Pete embodies kindness, authenticity, friendship, and a glass half full attitude. We could all take a few notes on his idealistic approach to life. It is refreshingly simple and a way of living so many of us could benefit from.

“The roses are just so beautiful… He has to stop to smell them.”


The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein

This classic favorite encourages us to open ourselves up to love even though you might end up hurt or let down at some point by the ones we love. If only we could allow ourselves to love without condition, selflessly giving every part of ourselves to improve someone else’s life.


The Fantastic Flying Books of Mr. Morris Lessmore by William Joyce

This lovely story transports us into a fantastical world of books. The main character spends his time doctoring old books, befriending forgotten novels, and bringing light to neighbors and friends who need a good story to lift up their spirits. Most importantly though, this story highlights the importance of our own life story. The story we write through our words and actions!

“Everyone’s story matters,” said Morris.


Stuck by Oliver Jeffers

Floyd’s story starts when his bright red kite gets stuck in a tree. This comical story demonstrates how problem solving does not always come in a neat, linear package. While his approach could appear flawed, his relentless pursuit to retrieve his kite from the tree allows us to smile and appreciate the beauty and simplicity of a child’s approach to life.

Floyd’s unconventionality and sheer determination illuminate how we, as adults, should also approach difficulties in life. We must continue to persevere, refuse to back down, and ultimately find a solution that works for us.


Oh, the Places You’ll Go! by Dr. Seuss 

This book is one of the most gifted graduation presents for a very good reason. It opens our eyes to the endless possibilities that lie ahead for us. This book serves as a metaphor for life and illustrates the tight rope we walk balancing life’s responsibilities. It encourages us to take life as it comes, to expect hardship, but to also trust in our abilities to overcome.

Life is not just about the journey. It is about the destinations we end up at whether by chance or by choice. It is about how we embrace the beautiful moments, accept and learn from the difficult parts, and ultimately become the best version of ourselves because of the experiences that mold and shape us!


Sam & Dave Dig a Hole by Mac Barnett

Life is an adventure, and Sam and Dave illuminate this perfectly. Armed with shovels and a backpack with animal crackers and chocolate milk, these two boys set out to discover what lies beneath.

Throughout the book, you wonder how they would feel if they realized how close they are at every turn to uncovering buried treasure. And yet, despite their rigorous efforts, they never actually happen upon any treasure. This viewpoint clearly takes on the persona of an adult because for the boys they find something spectacular because they never started this journey with any expectation other than to have fun.

What a refreshing approach to life Sam and Dave embrace! If only, our adult selves could look at life through the same lens. Life would be “pretty spectacular.”


In my Heart A Book of Feelings by Jo Witek

The main character of this book describes the big and little feelings she encounters every day. She encourages her readers to consider their own thoughts, feelings, and emotions on her creative journey embracing and accepting these feelings. She unravels a story so similar to what each and every one of us encounters on a daily basis: anger, hope, happiness, fear, humor, shyness, courage, peace, and hurt. Her simplistic approach to very real and oftentimes deep feelings spotlights the realness and importance these emotions play in our own lives. If we allowed ourselves to consider our emotions through the eyes of a child, perhaps we could also give ourselves permission to acknowledge these feelings and how they shape and propel us through life.

“My heart is full of feelings.”


The Girl who Ran by Frances Poletti & Kristina Yee

Literature should inspire us and motivate us to aspire for more. This book checks all the boxes for a truly inspirational read based on a very real heroine, Bobbi Gibb, the first woman to run the Boston Marathon. This book is a must read for all women no matter how young or old because it masterfully and powerfully encourages us to refuse to settle for anything less than our best. No glass ceiling, no male authority figure, no obstacle at all can stand in the way of the dreams we have for ourselves as women. Never settle!

“She ran with a strength only hope can inspire, just her and the sound of the wind in the fire.”


What the Dinosaurs did Last Night by Refe & Susan Tuma

Everyone needs humor in their lives. The more the better. Bring on the laugh lines, the belly laughs, and the absurdities of a fantastical, fictional story that will take you on a wild and messy adventure. But beware, the toy dinosaurs living in your children’s storage bins are waiting to wreak havoc on your home.

This book truly does bring a smile to your face as you consider the outrageous adventures a house full of toy dinosaurs can bring under one roof. Children, perhaps because they are unencumbered by the stresses of life, laugh often and with great gusto. Our lives, as adults, would be greatly changed for the better, if we also adopted this ability to laugh out loud more often and worry less about the little things.


Normal Norman by Tara Lazar

This final book brings everything full circle with regards to approaching life as our children do. So often we outgrow the innocence and naivety that is an innate part of life as children. We allow our perceptions of what others will think to dictate how we live out our lives as adults. We worry too much about their opinions and their thoughts that we somehow lose sight of true selves.

Normal Norman illustrates just how easy it is for others to try and put us in a neat and tidy box. But we cannot and should not allow anyone else to make us feel like we need to be a different version of ourselves. Authenticity is far more valuable than any opinion someone else will ever have of us.

” ‘Normal’ is impossible to define.”


While the intricacies of life do not always allow us to embrace life in a childlike manner, we should at least consider donning this hat when we can. After all, a life filled with laughter, vivid colors, and fantastical characters would make for a far more intriguing plot line then some of the real world drudgery that we often have to rub elbows with.

If life were a children’s book, it would be a much more pleasurable read than the realities of our non-fiction lives. With that being said, it’s never too late to rewrite our story!